How Do I Deal With Difficult People?
(2 Timothy 2:23-26 NLT) “Again I say, don’t get involved in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start fights. A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people. Gently instruct those who oppose the truth. Perhaps God will change those people’s hearts, and they will learn the truth. Then they will come to their senses and escape from the devil’s trap. For they have been held captive by him to do whatever he wants.”
✓ You can choose to curse it.
✓ You can choose to nurse it.
✓ You can choose to reverse it.
The Biblical Response
(Genesis 50:15, 19-21 NIV) “When Joseph’s brothers saw that their father was dead, they said, “What if Joseph holds a grudge against us and pays us back for all the wrongs we did to him? But Joseph said to them, “Don’t be afraid. Am I in the place of God? You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. So then, don’t be afraid. I will provide for you and your children.” And he reassured them and spoke kindly to them.”
1. Realize you cannot please everyone.
(John 5:30 NIV) By myself I can do nothing; I judge only as I hear, and my judgment is just, for I seek not to please myself but him who sent me.
2. Refuse to play the game.
(John 2:24 NLT) But Jesus didn’t trust them, because he knew all about people.
3. Recognize that different doesn't mean difficult.
(Galatians 3:28 AMP) ”There is [now no distinction in regard to salvation] neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you [who believe] are all one in Christ Jesus [no one can claim a spiritual superiority]."
4. Rise above it.
(Isaiah 40:31 NKJV) But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles. They shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint.
5. Never retaliate.
(1 Peter 3:9 NLT) Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and he will grant you his blessing.
6. Release them.
(Ephesians 4:32 NLT) “Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”
7. Live redemptively.
(Matthew 5:44 NLT) “But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you!”